You know those days that you pop out of bed, excited for life and all you're going to get accomplished that day, and then your kids step in, shaking their heads and saying, "No way, Jose. We have a full 12 hours of fighting, whining and general house-wrecking planned. You ain't getting nothing done today." And you're sitting there forlorn, thinking of any argument, "I'll make you cake for breakfast. No, seriously, look at this pound cake recipe. Doesn't it look good? It does? Yes, Mommy will even put it in muffin tins so when anyone asks you about breakfast you can tell them we ate muffins, like we are decent people who don't raid the Our Best Bites dessert section before 8 am."
And then before you know it, the muffins are devoured and the little rascals are carrying on with their evil plans anyway, arguing and thrashing and pulling out all the toys you, in a more organized life, cycled into the garage, to be pulled out in a few months after putting others away, creating a mess so awful that when Hubby gets home he asks, "Wow, did they have friends over? No? How did they do this all themselves in just one morning?"
So you use those few chaotic moments to launch a productivity sneak attack, but your children find you and holler, "MommyIwannahelpyou! MommyIwannahelpyou!" and they're stealing the scissors and unraveling all the ribbon and taping everything in sight and then tattle on their sibling who is mimicking their every move, but it's not bad when I do it, only when she does because she gets in my way of torturing you, Mom.
And now it's time to get ready to go, and Number 3's diaper smells as if a giant crack in the Earth has opened to reveal several new sulfur deposits, so you hose her down and try to do Number 2's hair. As you're wrangling these unrepentant strands, Number 1 begins crying with an unusual amount of alarm, "My nose is bleeding!" A bloody nose is not unheard of in our house (this may come as a big shock to you), so I don't think it's going to be terrible, but I try to get in to him quickly anyway. I am wholly unprepared for the blood splashed all across the tile, filling the bathroom sink, and literally gushing from my poor five year old's honker. His eyes are terrified and he's crying and trying to keep things together with a wimpy Kleenex and Number 3's crying because I put her down and Number 2 is bouncing, trying to see around me so she doesn't miss any excitement. We get some ice and a washcloth and get Big Brother settled trying to stave off the flow, while the girls and I mop up the blood a little so poor Judsen doesn't get freaked out every time he looks around. I'm trying to keep him calm and get the disinfecting spray and clean up and make sure he knows he's not going to die and prevent Felicity from blinding herself and her sister in her exuberance to help me with the Clorox.
Finally most of the blood is sopped up and we sit on the couch for a brief reprieve of cuddling and Curious George.
Now that Judsen's feeling better and everyone is mostly calm, it is time for us to attend our obligations, which we are at least 45 minutes late to. These go fairly well, except for JJ's terrible twos rehearsal, in which she throws a spectacular fit over...well..name something, I drank too much milk, the dog doesn't want me to stand on her, your rice is in a brown bowl and mine is white...you know.
We get home all ready for a nap, but before I can even make it into the house, Felicity comes running, "I'm sorry I made a big mess with the noodles, Mom." Fantastic. I walk in to find an ocean of dried rotini swimming in the hallway. Judsen has found a jumprope from somewhere and is attempting to either lasso the pasta or slingshot it across the house; it's hard to tell. JJ is alternating between punting it around and ice skating on top of it, which sends her crashing to the floor. Felicity is making an honest attempt to sweep up, but she's small and the broom's big and it's much easier if I just stir the noodles around.
Ok. Pasta crisis dealt with, now for naps. JJ's down, but the big kids decide there's no deal if we can't first sneak out of bed several times for an impromptu game of Ants in the Pants.
After naps, it's time to prepare for swimming lessons. Josh blessedly arrives home, and apparently JJ was as happy to see him as I was because this was another big chance for her to freak out about something. Wahoo! As I herd the older two out the door, she abandons Daddy, muffins, and Martha Speaks to come prostrate herself at the entrance to the garage and cry.
Swim lessons are great, up until the part that we try to go home. Both kids decide they definitely have to use the bathroom before we get in the car, so I say a little prayer, send Judsen into the boys' locker room and go with Felicity to the girls'. She gets in her stall and as I'm waiting for her, the women's swim team from the college comes in. Now I'm trying hard not to send eye daggers and I-hope-you-gain-80-lbs-and-miles-of-stretch-marks-when-you're-pregnant thoughts towards their tiny, tan bodies, because that simply would not be kind. So I turn my attention back to Felicity, who at this point, has been in the stall for 20 minutes, pooping, pirouetting with her swimsuit around her ankles, and redecorating the place with shredded toilet paper. Oy.
We hurry out because I am genuinely concerned that Judsen has been on his own so long, and to my greatest fear, he is nowhere to be found. I wait a few minutes, ask the pool staff, ask a guy going in to the locker room, look outside. My baby boy is not anywhere. Oh my heck, oh my heck, oh my heck. I head outside one more time and hear a faint, "Mom!" I look across the parking lot and in relief (and terror and a little anger) see him lounging near our van. A nice lady who was just leaving noticed our situation and helped hustle him back to me. He had gotten worried and didn't know what to do, and because "it was taking you forever in there and I thought I saw a person that was you by our car", he walked out the door, crossed the parking lot alone and "a car almost hit me" and waited next to the van for us. Oh, goodness. (The one bright spot here, aside from him being okay, is that we had a very good discussion about what to do if that ever happens again.)
Now we're home and I sit for a minute to relax and let the adrenaline and horror seep away, and the girls decide it would be a perfect time for a WWE smackdown on Mommy's lap, so they're wrestling each other and grabbing my glasses and kickboxing my tummy. Flight wins out over fight and I jump up and sprint into the bathroom, hiding on the toilet and locking the door behind me. Aaaahhh!!
Thankfully Josh is a wonderful human being and decides it's Peanut Butter Jelly Time. You know this time. Things get so hectic and Mom's losing her marbles and we still don't know what's for dinner, so Dad busts out his days-like-this special: PB&J.
So I come out, a little calmer and ready to make a little appearance at a bridal shower. I laugh and have fun with the girls for a bit, bring some cake home to my kids, at least one smears it all over the pretty white shirt she was wearing, and now we're having showers and all going to bed at 8:30.
And maybe tomorrow I'll wake up refreshed and composed. Or maybe I won't and we'll have Peanut Butter Jelly Time again. All I can say is, bless you Mr. Jif and Mr. Smucker. And Josh. Always, bless you, Josh.
Thursday, May 30, 2013
Friday, May 10, 2013
The Airport
Kids at the airport. I could probably just stop there, because I'm sure you're already thinking what I'm thinking. But you know me, I'm not going to stop there. Let us keep commiserating together about our experiences with kids at the airport.
Now, I'm not even talking about flying with kids. I've done it, flown by myself with the munchkins, trying to keep them strapped in the stroller until the exact right moment, then hauling you, them, and all their stuff down the gangway, attempting to keep them somewhat muffled during the flight and hoping beyond hope that no bodily fluids make it into the rows in front of or behind you, and then the bathroom on the airplane stops working before you're even in the air, and, like the comedian Brian Regan says, there's apparently only one tool in the known universe that can fix it and it's in Madagascar, so you drive around the runway at random for over an hour and the flight attendants can see your crew getting restless so they smuggle you extra pretzels and bottled water. When you finally land, the airline has lost your luggage, and as you wait in line to talk to them about it, one or more of your children poops their pants and sticks their hands in it. No, I'm not talking about that.
I'm taking about simply having your children at the airport. I did this recently. We were there to retrieve my sister, whose flight was delayed by a little while. Figuring it was better to go in and wait for her than sit in the parking lot watching the 50th rerun of Sesame Street's The Great Numbers Game, we made a break for it. No, of course I didn't have a stroller. Or snacks. Or even a tiny sippy cup to keep us entertained. That would have been far too responsible and/or prepared to be a good Sephonnie Elliss story.
We made it through the parking garage, down the elevator, and across the road into the actual building itself, the kids looking around and taking everything in with huge eyes as if this is their first time on Earth, and me repeating incessant instructions to stay together, hold hands, wait for your sister, no please don't pull her arm, and don't walk away where you can't see me. We enter the family bathroom stall to all relieve ourselves. This, of course, involves reverently touching the paper towel dispenser and upon learning that it does what every other automated dispenser in America does, doing the cancan in front of it so it begins emitting miles of white paper. And then we need to flip the light switch on and off as rapidly as possible, unlock the door, ask over and over if I can go outside and just wait by myself because I'm a big boy and no one will take me because I know karate, and also sing perhaps the ABCs and some favorite church hymns at the top of our lungs.
Once we're through with the bathroom, the running ensues. We run around around the luggage carousel (Mom! Is this like a slide??), run into the lost luggage office shouting Hi! Hi! (I'm sorry, no. My 15 month old does not need to file a complaint. Carry on, please.), run around the waiting area chairs (Felicity, try to catch me!!), run around the luggage carousel again (Mom! Now can we use it as a slide?!), run under the Caution! Restricted Area! tape that is cordoning off a broken carousel, and finally just nestle against its side because we've all decided we want to hide from Aunt Shanelle (who is the person we are there to pick up and who has yet to make an entrance). Except now actual baggage is starting to pop up and swim around on this thing that Mom said wasn't a slide, but look at those suitcases riding down it, and maybe Mom doesn't know what she's talking about. JJ reaches out her arms and pumps her little legs to try to catch hold of one and let it take her in circles and Judsen begins hollering because he's afraid she'll get hurt. But now that's boring and let's play tag again and hey! yay! there's Aunt Shanelle, but we haven't seen her for a while, so now all the running is coming to an end while Felicity dangles between my legs trying to act shy but also get Auntie's attention at the same time. Judsen is hiding his face in his arms, but continues to run around like he's some sort of jungle warrior who feels camouflaged because if he can't see us, then we definitely can't see him. And JJ remains oblivious to the arrival of one of her favorite people because darn it all if she's not going to catch one of those bags and have it take her for a spin before this night is over.
The point is, kids are awesome. Traveling with kids is awesome. Not traveling with kids is awesome. You're a mother, so now and forever anything you do with your children can be considered awesome. Right? :)
Now, I'm not even talking about flying with kids. I've done it, flown by myself with the munchkins, trying to keep them strapped in the stroller until the exact right moment, then hauling you, them, and all their stuff down the gangway, attempting to keep them somewhat muffled during the flight and hoping beyond hope that no bodily fluids make it into the rows in front of or behind you, and then the bathroom on the airplane stops working before you're even in the air, and, like the comedian Brian Regan says, there's apparently only one tool in the known universe that can fix it and it's in Madagascar, so you drive around the runway at random for over an hour and the flight attendants can see your crew getting restless so they smuggle you extra pretzels and bottled water. When you finally land, the airline has lost your luggage, and as you wait in line to talk to them about it, one or more of your children poops their pants and sticks their hands in it. No, I'm not talking about that.
I'm taking about simply having your children at the airport. I did this recently. We were there to retrieve my sister, whose flight was delayed by a little while. Figuring it was better to go in and wait for her than sit in the parking lot watching the 50th rerun of Sesame Street's The Great Numbers Game, we made a break for it. No, of course I didn't have a stroller. Or snacks. Or even a tiny sippy cup to keep us entertained. That would have been far too responsible and/or prepared to be a good Sephonnie Elliss story.
We made it through the parking garage, down the elevator, and across the road into the actual building itself, the kids looking around and taking everything in with huge eyes as if this is their first time on Earth, and me repeating incessant instructions to stay together, hold hands, wait for your sister, no please don't pull her arm, and don't walk away where you can't see me. We enter the family bathroom stall to all relieve ourselves. This, of course, involves reverently touching the paper towel dispenser and upon learning that it does what every other automated dispenser in America does, doing the cancan in front of it so it begins emitting miles of white paper. And then we need to flip the light switch on and off as rapidly as possible, unlock the door, ask over and over if I can go outside and just wait by myself because I'm a big boy and no one will take me because I know karate, and also sing perhaps the ABCs and some favorite church hymns at the top of our lungs.
Once we're through with the bathroom, the running ensues. We run around around the luggage carousel (Mom! Is this like a slide??), run into the lost luggage office shouting Hi! Hi! (I'm sorry, no. My 15 month old does not need to file a complaint. Carry on, please.), run around the waiting area chairs (Felicity, try to catch me!!), run around the luggage carousel again (Mom! Now can we use it as a slide?!), run under the Caution! Restricted Area! tape that is cordoning off a broken carousel, and finally just nestle against its side because we've all decided we want to hide from Aunt Shanelle (who is the person we are there to pick up and who has yet to make an entrance). Except now actual baggage is starting to pop up and swim around on this thing that Mom said wasn't a slide, but look at those suitcases riding down it, and maybe Mom doesn't know what she's talking about. JJ reaches out her arms and pumps her little legs to try to catch hold of one and let it take her in circles and Judsen begins hollering because he's afraid she'll get hurt. But now that's boring and let's play tag again and hey! yay! there's Aunt Shanelle, but we haven't seen her for a while, so now all the running is coming to an end while Felicity dangles between my legs trying to act shy but also get Auntie's attention at the same time. Judsen is hiding his face in his arms, but continues to run around like he's some sort of jungle warrior who feels camouflaged because if he can't see us, then we definitely can't see him. And JJ remains oblivious to the arrival of one of her favorite people because darn it all if she's not going to catch one of those bags and have it take her for a spin before this night is over.
The point is, kids are awesome. Traveling with kids is awesome. Not traveling with kids is awesome. You're a mother, so now and forever anything you do with your children can be considered awesome. Right? :)
This Day
You know. You know this day. This day was that day. The day when the first things you hear are your soggy five-year-old's reassuring words, "Mom, I didn't pee my bed. My shorts just got wet. And my sheets are wet. And do I have any clean underwear?" and your three-year-old pipes in with, "Mom, whenever you feed fish and dogs you need to wash your hands. Mom, let's go feed the fish and dog. Actually, you just feed them. I want a chocolate granola bar." So you stagger out of bed, too tired to do anything but follow orders from these small alien leaders who have apparently sucked the brains right from your head, and begin digging in the dryer, looking for the requested breakfast food, only to realize that on a good day, only clothes are stored in there, and that's the real reason you're in the laundry room in the first place, because Thing 1 is still standing naked requesting your assistance for clothing. You find clothes (hopefully they're his) and continue your zombie march to the kitchen to find sustenance for Thing 2.
Thing 3 is now awake and needing a shower because she seems to have the remnants of last night's Cheetos still clinging to her skin and one half her hair is cemented to her face with, well, you're probably better off not knowing. So you begin preparing her for a cleansing, but this is difficult because she's anxious and wiggling and the problem of remembering which direction to pull her pants to get them off her body seems insurmountable.
Finally she's in the shower, Number 1's out the door, and you remember that Number 2 needs a small picture printed for school. This shouldn't take more than a few minutes, right?, so you get your exercise clothes on thinking that we'll whip this assignment out and get a workout in before you can say Bob's your uncle and you have to take anyone else to school. You sit down at the computer, choose the picture, click print and ... no ink. Awesome. Let's change the cartridge. Only, how do I go about this on this newfangled contraption? Watch the informational video where the top of the printer magically lifts itself off and the cartridges slip happily into view and then fairies fly out sprinkling pizza to all the happy children. Ok. Step 1: figure out how to take the top off. Grunting and pulling and squeezing results in half the printer being lifted up at a horrifying angle while the rest remains steadfastly in place. Sephonnie, you have a college degree for crying out loud. How hard can this be? Finally after praying and frantically pushing into every nook and cranny, gold is struck and the top lifts away and the cartridges do, in fact, slide happily into view. Replace the one that seems bad. Print pictures. Shots of you and your beautiful daughter come out green and streaked. Ok, replace the rest of the cartridges. Print pictures again. 45 minutes and $45 in ink and photo paper later, you have two tiny pictures to show for your hard work and now 0% of the children remaining in the house are dressed and there is no time for a workout and in fact -aaahhh!!!- the clock says there's no time for anything.
Rush to school. A few minutes later, it's time to pick up Thing 1 and a friend. You do so and decide to run an errand on the way home, so you take three tornadoes into poor, unsuspecting Big 5 to purchase a couple things for your yet-uncompleted workout and the guy says, "Hey, you were in here last week, right?" I can't possibly imagine why we would have made an impression, as you're wrestling Number 3 who is riding backwards on your shoulders like a confused sack of potatoes and Number 1 & Company are darting around the store, hollering excitedly about their favorites from the weapons counter.
After a brief respite that comes in the form of death-threat-enforced naps and lunchtime, you're all getting packed up for a Welcome to Kindergarten night at the elementary school. Cute, right? Except that poor Josh is still at work and won't be home for hours so the whole crew is coming with you and Kid Uno to learn about kindergarten. You walk into the school, juggling three bundles of joy who begin sprinting around the school's cafeteria like this is the first time they've ever been let out of the cage and the poor teachers try to squelch the immediate look in their eyes, "Um, lady, I think you're in the wrong place. The clown college is down the street," and instead they earn an Academy Award for saying, "Welcome to the Wolf Pack!" like they're genuinely glad we're there.
The teachers are awesome and keep all three kiddos entertained for an hour and a half (except for the few moments when Number 2 feels left out and begins crying loudly, "I wanna go to kindergarten, too!!") and then you reach home to put the kids in front of a couple episodes of Horseland and hope that the clients coming for their workouts any minute now aren't offended by the enormous pillow fort that is still inhabiting the front room.
And then the small ones are in bed, and you collapse on the couch with a new episode of Psych and the banana butterscotch blondies you've been waiting to dig in to, and hope that you are revived enough to try it all again tomorrow.
This day. You know this day. When you love your kids and work this hard, there's bound to be this day. I read a quote that seems very applicable. Here is my own little interpretation: "Behind every great kid is a mom who's pretty sure she's screwing it up. And behind every mom who's pretty sure she's screwing it up, is a Sam's Club-sized bag of chocolate chips that give her the courage to try another day anyway."
Thing 3 is now awake and needing a shower because she seems to have the remnants of last night's Cheetos still clinging to her skin and one half her hair is cemented to her face with, well, you're probably better off not knowing. So you begin preparing her for a cleansing, but this is difficult because she's anxious and wiggling and the problem of remembering which direction to pull her pants to get them off her body seems insurmountable.
Finally she's in the shower, Number 1's out the door, and you remember that Number 2 needs a small picture printed for school. This shouldn't take more than a few minutes, right?, so you get your exercise clothes on thinking that we'll whip this assignment out and get a workout in before you can say Bob's your uncle and you have to take anyone else to school. You sit down at the computer, choose the picture, click print and ... no ink. Awesome. Let's change the cartridge. Only, how do I go about this on this newfangled contraption? Watch the informational video where the top of the printer magically lifts itself off and the cartridges slip happily into view and then fairies fly out sprinkling pizza to all the happy children. Ok. Step 1: figure out how to take the top off. Grunting and pulling and squeezing results in half the printer being lifted up at a horrifying angle while the rest remains steadfastly in place. Sephonnie, you have a college degree for crying out loud. How hard can this be? Finally after praying and frantically pushing into every nook and cranny, gold is struck and the top lifts away and the cartridges do, in fact, slide happily into view. Replace the one that seems bad. Print pictures. Shots of you and your beautiful daughter come out green and streaked. Ok, replace the rest of the cartridges. Print pictures again. 45 minutes and $45 in ink and photo paper later, you have two tiny pictures to show for your hard work and now 0% of the children remaining in the house are dressed and there is no time for a workout and in fact -aaahhh!!!- the clock says there's no time for anything.
Rush to school. A few minutes later, it's time to pick up Thing 1 and a friend. You do so and decide to run an errand on the way home, so you take three tornadoes into poor, unsuspecting Big 5 to purchase a couple things for your yet-uncompleted workout and the guy says, "Hey, you were in here last week, right?" I can't possibly imagine why we would have made an impression, as you're wrestling Number 3 who is riding backwards on your shoulders like a confused sack of potatoes and Number 1 & Company are darting around the store, hollering excitedly about their favorites from the weapons counter.
After a brief respite that comes in the form of death-threat-enforced naps and lunchtime, you're all getting packed up for a Welcome to Kindergarten night at the elementary school. Cute, right? Except that poor Josh is still at work and won't be home for hours so the whole crew is coming with you and Kid Uno to learn about kindergarten. You walk into the school, juggling three bundles of joy who begin sprinting around the school's cafeteria like this is the first time they've ever been let out of the cage and the poor teachers try to squelch the immediate look in their eyes, "Um, lady, I think you're in the wrong place. The clown college is down the street," and instead they earn an Academy Award for saying, "Welcome to the Wolf Pack!" like they're genuinely glad we're there.
The teachers are awesome and keep all three kiddos entertained for an hour and a half (except for the few moments when Number 2 feels left out and begins crying loudly, "I wanna go to kindergarten, too!!") and then you reach home to put the kids in front of a couple episodes of Horseland and hope that the clients coming for their workouts any minute now aren't offended by the enormous pillow fort that is still inhabiting the front room.
And then the small ones are in bed, and you collapse on the couch with a new episode of Psych and the banana butterscotch blondies you've been waiting to dig in to, and hope that you are revived enough to try it all again tomorrow.
This day. You know this day. When you love your kids and work this hard, there's bound to be this day. I read a quote that seems very applicable. Here is my own little interpretation: "Behind every great kid is a mom who's pretty sure she's screwing it up. And behind every mom who's pretty sure she's screwing it up, is a Sam's Club-sized bag of chocolate chips that give her the courage to try another day anyway."
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